Sex After Menopause

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Sexual Play After Menopause

Menopause can change many aspects of your life, but it doesn’t mean your life is over. Not by a long shot. This includes your sex life. However, for some women, it might take a little boost to get their sex life back on the right track. Some of the symptoms of menopause include vaginal dryness and problems orgasming. Fortunately, there are plenty of things you can do that can spectacularly improve your sex life. Let’s look at a few of the things that you will want to do to bring back that heat.


Stimulate the Clitoris with a Special Vibrator

The clitoris plays a big role in sexual happiness and wellbeing. Often, menopause will cause the clitoris to shrink, though. This can make it more difficult for many women to achieve orgasm, especially through penetrative sex, the use of dildos, etc. Therefore, you will want to invest in a clitoral vibrator that will help you target that special area.


These are typically on the small side, and you can find a wealth of options available online, as well as in local shops. It’s a good idea to choose a high-quality vibrator for the clitoris that is built to last and that has different vibration settings. You can then experiment with the various settings to determine which one works best for you.


You can use the vibrator when you are solo or when you are with a partner. Many women use it while they are having penetrative sex with a partner, as it can help to stimulate them better. They can achieve an orgasm while having some fun with the toy and their partner. While vibrators are a great choice for women who have gone through menopause, they can work just as well for women of other ages.

Use Lube

Because vaginal dryness is often a symptom of menopause, it can mean painful sex. Naturally, this means you will want to have sex less often. Fortunately, there is a great and simple solution to this. You can opt to use lube. It’s affordable, fun, and can be just what you need to help restart your sex life. It’s a good idea to always have some lube around.


You can opt for a water-based lube, which can work quite well as a replacement for natural lubricant. Make sure that you buy a high-quality lube, of course. There is also the option of silicone-based lubricant. It can last longer than water-based, which may be something that you need. However, there is a caveat. The silicone-based lubricant can’t be used with silicone sex toys. So, if you are using a silicone vibrator, you can’t use silicone lubricant. This is because it will affect the material in the toy.


As with vibrators, you will find that lube is great for other ages, not just those who have gone through menopause.

Better Foreplay

If you find that it’s taking you longer to orgasm, it could be because you aren’t getting enough foreplay to get to the place you need to be. If you aren’t getting enough foreplay, talk with your partner. Let them know what you like and what you want. Be open and honest with them. Consider some of the different things you could do that will prolong the foreplay a bit longer, so you can have a more enjoyable experience. In the case of some women, it might be receiving oral from their partner. Maybe it’s using the clitoral vibrator. This might be what you need to orgasm.

Try Something New

Another way to improve your sexual play post-menopause is to change things up in the bedroom. If you’ve been doing the same thing year in and year out, then you might need to have a shakeup. There are plenty of potential things that you can try. Maybe you want to get into roleplaying with your partner. Perhaps you would like to try out some sex toys or some light BDSM.


Take some time to think about what might get you excited and talk with your partner about trying it. You will find countless potential options that could work well for you. Now is the perfect time to start experimenting and trying things that you’ve been putting off for far too long.

Vaginal Dilation Tools

In some cases, women might notice that their vagina may have changed in size and is no longer the same width or length that it once was. Naturally, this will cause sex to be painful. If this is a problem you have, there is an option of using a vaginal dilation tool to help correct the issues. There is vaginal dilator therapy that you could try, which uses a series of cylindrical tubes that will widen the vagina. An option some women have tried is to use a series of different-sized dildos to slowly dilate rather than dilator therapy.


Start Doing Kegel Exercises

If you are having trouble with orgasms, you will want to start doing Kegels. This will help you to better work your pelvic floor muscles, so you can strengthen them. These muscles can help you to have better and more intense orgasms. The exercises are easy to do, and you don’t need to have any special equipment. Even better, they don’t take long to do, but they can provide some great results.


To get started with these exercises, you will first want to lay down on your bed or couch. Then, tighten the muscles that you would use if you need to stop a stream of urine. Hold the muscles for a count of six and then relax for about 10 seconds. Repeat this 10 times. Do it each day and over time, you will start to notice a difference.

Just because you have gone through menopause doesn’t mean that your sexual life has come to an end. You are still vibrant and sexy, and you have needs. Using the tips above, you can return to the level of sexual play that you enjoyed before.



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