No matter what your gender or sexuality is, a strap-on can be a great addition to your sex life. Much like a bullet vibrator, bringing a strap-on into the bedroom is a versatile way to spice things up. Strap-ons can be used for vaginal sex or anal sex (though not at the same time!) and even for blow jobs, masturbation, and pretty much any sex act your imagination can come up with.
Whether you’re familiar with strap-ons or are new to the idea, it all starts with finding the right fit for you and your partner. So let’s talk about strap-ons — where to buy them, why you need one, and how to find the perfect fit.
Who Are Strap Ons For?
Strap-ons are for everyone! It’s often assumed that strap-ons are solely for pegging, but that just isn’t the case. There’s no limit to how you can use a strap-on, with a wide variety of ways you can customize your strap-on to meet your needs.
Some strap-ons vibrate. Others offer double penetration strap-on options. They can be used to simulate penetrative sex if you and your partner both have vaginas or offer the opportunity for the woman to top and provide anal penetration in a heterosexual relationship.
They’re a great option if one partner struggles with erectile dysfunction but wants to experience penetrative sex and get their partner off regardless. Strap-ons are also very inclusive options for individuals who experience gender dysphoria because they can simulate penetrative sex for the wearer in a way that may be gender-affirming.
What Do You Need To Know About Strap Ons?
The first thing to keep in mind with strap-ons is that while they’re as fun and versatile as the “real” thing, they don’t function in exactly the same way. With that in mind, you’ll also need to clean your strap-on.
Cleaning your sex toys regularly after and before use is essential. Different materials can require different cleaning techniques, but we’d recommend sticking to non-porous materials like glass, stainless steel, hard plastic, and silicone because they’re less likely to hold onto bacteria and other undesirable impurities.
A designated toy cleaner like this After Dark Essentials Foam Toy Cleaner can also help you disinfect.
Where Can You Buy a Strap-On?
This one’s easy to answer: you can buy your next strap-on from us! We have a wide range of strap-on sex toys and even a strap-on set or two that you can choose from.
Whether you’re looking for a lifelike dildo or something more fun and brightly colored like the Gender X Sweet Embrace Dual Motor Strap on Vibe with Harness in yellow, there’s something for you.
But before you get around to buying a strap-on, you’ll need to determine what type of strap-on is right for you and your partner(s), so let’s talk about all the things you need to consider before you commit so you can be sure you’ll find the perfect fit.
How Do You Know Which One’s Right for You?
There are two primary components to most strap-ons: the insertable dildo and the harness it attaches to. There are many different variations on both of these items, so there are nearly endless ways to customize your strap-on to meet your and your partner’s needs.
Choosing the Right Dildo or Dong
If you’re using your dildo for insertion, you’re going to want a nonporous material like a silicone dildo so that it’s easier to clean — this goes double if you’re interested in pursuing anal play, which obviously has a much higher risk of contamination.
In addition to considering the material your dildo is made from, you’ll want to consider any extras you want from your strap-on play. Do you want a vibrating dildo?
The VeDo Diki Rechargeable Vibrating Dildo with a harness is a great option. It uses two powerful motors to thrill you with 10 vibration modes and six intensity levels that are changed easily with a remote control.
You will also need to decide whether you want a realistic dildo or something a little more fun and bright for your wearable enjoyment. The last major thing to think about is the size of the dildo.
While sometimes people can be drawn to impressive size and girth, size isn’t the be-all, end-all. It’s all about finding the right fit for you and your partner.
Maybe the insertable length of your dildo doesn’t need to be very long to pleasure your partner, or maybe your partner gets off on a seven-inch dildo and needs g-spot stimulation to feel satisfied. You can also get dildos in different sizes or a dildo set to build up to a larger size or vary your play options. You may also want to keep anal toys separate from toys used for vaginal penetration if you want to use your strap-on harness set for both.
But there’s another reason to consider size: will your dildo fit your chosen harness? Some harnesses use an o-ring or other fixture to connect, so you’ll want to do a little due diligence to ensure everything connects.
Choosing the Right Harness
There are many options out there for a strap-on harness, so knowing what you’re looking for is key. There are two primary categories for strap-ons: harnesses that look like underwear and strap-ons that are more of an adjustable harness situation.
The best strap-on for you depends on your choice of using it and your individual preference! Adjustable harnesses are easier to fit to your body and provide more versatility. You’ll want to go this way if you’re unsure about fit or if you and your partner plan to take turns as the wearer so that it will fit both of you.
Underwear style strap-on harnesses can be a little more sturdy, so if you don’t mind the look and feel of wearing a panty during sex, it can be a great way to ensure that your chosen dildo isn’t going anywhere.
In Conclusion
A satisfying and varied sex life contributes to many people's overall wellness and relationship satisfaction. So introducing sex toys or other types of play into the bedroom to help spice things up is a good idea not only because exploring your sexual fantasies or fetish fantasies can be fulfilling and fun… but also because it keeps you and your relationship happy!
So check out some of our bestsellers to find the right style harness and ideal strap-on for maximum pleasure next time you and your partner decide to play.
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