What Are Strapons? Learn More About Strap-Ons and Harnesses

For all of the mystique and intrigue around strap-ons, they are actually quite simple. A strap-on is a wearable penetrative device worn by one partner that can be used to penetrate another partner. Some people also like to wear strap-ons for gender-affirming reasons.

This just depends on the individual or the couple and what you hope to achieve from wearing it. Strap-ons are also sometimes just called “straps” for short.

This might not be the most straightforward answer, but anyone who wants to use a strap-on can use a strap-on. They are often used during lesbian or queer sex to offer a new form of hands-free fun.

However, heterosexual couples can also garner great pleasure from having strap-on sex. When someone with a vulva uses a strap-on for anal penetration with someone with a penis, this is typically referred to as “pegging.”

People with penises can also wear strap-ons to facilitate double penetration or help with erectile dysfunction. There is essentially no limit to the number of people who can use and enjoy strap-ons, and it can also be done in many different positions.

The good news is that many of your favorite positions to use during penetrative sex can also be used with a strap-on. Sex positions like doggy style, missionary, cowgirl, and reverse cowgirl are always safe bets, but feel free to switch it up and get creative.

The positions you choose can also change depending on whether you are having vaginal sex or anal sex. Since the anus is lower, you might have to do some repositioning or propping up with pillows to get everything in the right place.

If you are having sex with someone with a prostate, some types and positions of anal play are better for prostate stimulation than others. If you are planning to use the same toy for anal and vaginal play, thoroughly wash and clean it in between. You should always wash your sex toys with warm water and a sex toy cleaner.

There are a few different ways to wear a strap-on. How exactly you wear it will depend on the type of strap and harness you get.

While strap-ons that use harnesses to stay in place are likely more well-known, some strap-ons don’t require harnesses at all.

We’ll explore those more in a little while.

There are a lot of different kinds of strap-ons out there. This should be exciting rather than overwhelming, but here is a quick guide to a few of the different strap-on types you can expect to find.

Dildos are a classic since they’re excellent at building up G-spot orgasms. The only difference between an average dildo and a strap-on dildo is that one that works with a harness will have a flared base.

Otherwise, it would fall right out, which absolutely no one wants. The Strap on Me Silicone Bendable Dildo in Medium will stay in the harness throughout the session.

Made with body-safe silicone, be sure to use a water-based lube. Using silicone-based lube with a silicone toy can cause the toy to break down.

For those who want a little extra movement with their penetrative sex, a vibrator might be right for you. The same vibrator you use for masturbation might work as a strap-on, too.

Again, it just has to fit properly into a harness. Typically, toys will require a flared base to do this.

You can also get a vibrating strap-on that comes with a harness, like the Vedo Diki Rechargeable Vibrating Dildo w/ Harness, so that you’ll know it will fit every time.

The last kind of strap-on we’ll cover here, people with vaginas can take advantage of strapless strap-ons. Instead of buckling it into a harness, strapless straps work by having the wearer insert part of the toy into themselves so that it stays in place while penetrating a partner.

Just like there are plenty of different kinds of strap-ons, there are plenty of different strap-on harnesses. Which type is best for you will be entirely up to you and your partner’s preference.

Consider the pros and cons of each and the type of strap you want to get to find the perfect combo to enhance your sex life.

The first time you put on a strap-on, there might be a bit of trial and error. That is completely normal.

Some harnesses come with adjustable straps to customize the dimensions to your unique shape. This makes strap-on play more seamless and intuitive, so you can get to the fun part faster.

The Gender Fluid Johnnie Strap on Harness is adjustable and is perfect for people of all different gender identities. The O-Ring in the front can accommodate all sorts of toys with flared bases, such as a hollow strap-on, vibrating dildo, and more.

The wearer can also get an added dose of stimulation directly to their clitoris by putting a small yet powerful bullet vibrator in the inside pocket.

Some people find that underwear harnesses are simpler to put on since you treat them just like regular underwear that you wear every day (or maybe you don’t, we aren’t judging). If a product like that sounds right up your alley, check out Her Royal Harness Backless Brief.

This particular strap-on harness has another surprise in store, though. It has a cut-out on the back, making anal play possible for the wearer. So break out the lube and the butt plugs because it’s time for a party.

For those who would rather not wear a harness around their genitals, look no further than the Gender Fluid Thigh Rider Strap on Harness. Wearing this unisex harness on your thigh gives both the penetrator and the one being penetrated a wide array of new options.

This thigh harness has added padding so everyone can stay comfortable as they chase their pleasure.

We hope this guide has helped enlighten you about the joys of strap-ons. Whether you go with a strapless strap-on, use a harness, or go with a dildo that does or doesn’t vibrate, know that you’re in for a good time.

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